Confetti

Everyone’s experiences are different growing up. No one has the same heart, thoughts, stories or even the same mind as you. That makes each and every individual unique. Yes some people go through similar things, but nothing is the exact same. God has created us individually, through His own image and with such detail; we don’t even have the same fingerprints as anyone else.

Which is why we need to be really careful. I can't stress this enough, but you have no idea what some people go through. Which is why when they build up enough confidence to share their story with you, you cannot judge them. At all. What happened in their past, is the past and they have grown from it. It may have turned them into the person who you love today whether it's your best friend or someone you're in a relationship with.

SO who are you to say anything about someone else that is perfect in God’s eyes?

Remember in the movie “Mean Girls” towards the end during the debate, when Lindsey Lohan was about to go against the girl from the other school? Well during that whole time she was walking towards her and criticizing her, thinking about things the girl should “fix” about herself.

At that moment, Lohan starts thinking to herself: “Making fun of Caroline Kraft wouldn’t stop her from beating me in this contest…calling somebody stupid won’t make you any smarter…and ruining Regina George’s life definitely didn’t make me any happier.”

Yes, I did just quote ‘Mean Girls,’ but it’s highly relevant. We are all guilty of putting someone else down, whether we say it out loud or think it to ourselves. Of course we try not to have those thoughts, but it’s hard when we live in a world that causes us to be so judge mental towards others and ourselves.

I’ll admit it. I’m guilty of this.

When we put others down, it feels like an instant gratification or satisfaction of our own image and a lame attempt of trying to make ourselves feel better. Again, we are all guilty of doing this at least once in our lifetime. We all want to feel better about ourselves, but there are healthier and way better alternatives to do it; without putting others down and feeling bad later about what you said.

But it’s because I (like everyone else) am trying to find myself and what type of person I want to be, how I want to look and everything else that goes along with that. Growing up is hard sometimes because we are surrounded by a ton of people all the time (school or work) and those who like to be alone are the “outsiders” or the “weird” ones. In reality, more power to them. It takes a lot of confidence to stand-alone.

Bottom line, we are all trying to figure out who we are and who we want to be. So instead of talking someone else down and making transitions in life harder for them and you, just pick yourself up. Honestly if you are nicer to people and more genuine, you’ll feel better about yourself. Compliment yourself. Compliment others.

“Throw kindness around like confetti.”

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